I’ve been natural for two years now and the journey has been interesting to say the least. There are plenty of ups and downs to being a Naturalista, but as much as I may complain, the good outweighs the bad and I would never go back. I wanted to show you an update and tell you what I’ve learned in the last two years.
Detangling is an extreme sport.
My arms arms are getting toned for summer and I can thank the detangling process. It’s like when you split your hair into sections, you rest in between each set. I thank the man above for my deep conditioner, leave-in conditioner, and argan oil.
2. Protective styles are life.
While rocking your curls, twists, and braid outs are what natural hair is all about, sometimes you need a break. I wasn’t prepared to have to twist my hair every two or three days in order to keep my twist out looking half way decent. Protective styles, such as wigs, braids, weaves, not only protect my hair, but give me (and my arms) a break too.
3. Knowing your hair type is important.
Naturalistas, in general, encounter similar hair experiences. However, when you separate us into categories based on our hair type, we begin to experience things a little differently. For example, someone who is 4C may require more oils on their hair and scalp since they are prone to dryness and they also experience more shrinkage.
As my natural hair journey continues, I’m aiming for longer length and definition in my curls. I’ll continue to update you along the way.
As you all know I went on a road trip to Canada recently. One of the big preparations I had to make was what I would do with my hair during this getaway. Slaying my lace front wig was not an option this time around as I wanted something that didn’t require a lot of daily maintenance.
I opted for convenient, bohemian style, à la mode braids done by Charlene Banks, otherwise known as BeYou’Ty By Char. She is a Californian native who recently moved back to ”The Golden State” after living in New Jersey for a number of years. After working in corporate America for BMW, Charlene decided to quit her job and pursue her passion for styling hair.
“I taught myself how to braid hair when I was 16. Once I got to high school, I was braiding almost every girl’s hair in school”, she stated.
Her signature style includes faux locs but she also does crotchet, braids (of course), as well as eyebrow microblading.
Check out her work in the pics below in addition to her Instagram pages and website:
So recently, I was given a Scalp Soother to try by Luxe Therapy. I opened it and had moderate expectations being that I’ve used products like this before, however, this was divine! It was thin enough to slide right underneath my wig and it got those hard to reach spots that can be difficult to scratch.
As you can see, it is built just like an old school pick but it is a bit thinner.
So stop patting those weaves and get you one of these!
You can definitely use this Scalp Soother no matter what your hair type is. Just make sure you rinse it off between each wash and do not scratch too hard especially if you just got your braids done.
Check out Luxe Therapy on Twitter and Instagram @luxetherapy
So three months ago, as you may or may not know, I cut off all the hair on my head that was chemically relaxed. That left me with a short, tapered, and curly fro. I was unsure about the look at first, however, I knew it was a step in the direction of being able to enjoy my natural curls.
Since the chop, I’ve been keeping a very low maintenance hair routine (depending on what you call low maintenance). I shampoo and condition my tresses for 45-60 minutes every 7-10 days and keep it in braids underneath my wig.
The wig that I’m currently wearing I made with two 18-inch bundles, a 16-inch bundle, and a 14-inch closure.
I wear it on a regular basis because it has the texture of what natural hair would feel like if it was blow dried and maybe flat ironed, which is why people always stop and ask “Wow! Your hair is so long! Is it all yours?”. That’s when I have to let dreadfully let them down and tell them the truth. Why not just tell them it is my hair? Because why lie? That way, I can also promote myself as a wig maker :]
Here are some updated pics:
This was after I took my cornrows out. AKA a braid out
I’ve noticed some length between when I cut my hair and now. It’s literally not even an inch but it’s growth !
You know I had to throw a little filter on there.
I could always use some hair inspo, so if you have encouraging words drop them in the comments below !
I’ve been MIA lately when it comes to fashion posts and I’ll tell you why. It’s winter. I unfortunately don’t live in a place where it’s warm all year long. So, when it comes to doing a little photo shoot in the middle of winter, I usually take an L and fill my blog with other topics. However, it was a little warmer today so I’m hoping this means that Spring is soon to come!
This outfit was inspired by my mindset. Lately, I’ve been in BOSS MODE trying to balance finding a full-time job, working my part-time job, developing my brand, doing some freelance writing, being a full-time caregiver for my mom, and having a social life. I’ve been working hard and getting it done *insert hair flip*.
With that being said, I threw on my Olivia Pope inspired trench coat with a simple cream color dress I found at good ol’ TJMaxx. I found this dress at the end of last spring and it’s super comfy because the texture has a velvety feel to it. Simple dresses like these are so great to have in your closet. You can do so much with it. Dress it up and keep it simple.
My black thigh high boots have become my life and one of the best birthday gifts ever. I love love loooooove my boots! They take any and every outfit up three notches. This thigh high trend was definitely one of my favorites this fall and winter. Now if I could just find them in another color, I’d be set.
Now, if you notice at the top of the page, I told you my coat was vintage. This coat and I have a long history. I mean, I’ve had this coat since about junior year of high school. It has seen me grow up and it has been here for my Glo up. This coat came with me to college, has been to multiple college parties and was there to cover my shoulders as I walked to brunch the next morning. This coat has had buttons pop off multiple times and been sewn right back on by my dear mother. It travelled with me abroad to other countries and has been through the snow, rain, and hail. To be honest, I just haven’t gotten around to getting a new one. Maybe I’ll save that for next fall. Haha.
*My dress looks super short here due to the way I’m sitting. But, I guess doing my squats has paid off. Yass!*
Yes, you read correctly. My hair is a little longer than two inches and I am officially Team Naturalista.
It started out as a typical wash day and ended like this …
Why did this happen you ask? Well, my intentions were to snip a very small unnoticeable section of my hair just so I could see the difference in the growth pattern and texture compared to the rest of my head which still had relaxed ends. Along with that, I wanted to practice cutting a little bit before the time came for me to chop it all off.
At the end of the day, I had good intentions….but they were only intentions. Cutting a little section turned into cutting a bigger section, which then turned into me having a nostalgic moment. I wasn’t just cutting off my hair. I was getting rid of the old Tia who didn’t want to know life without a relaxer and thought “Natural hair is not for me”. I was brainwashed by media and my peers into thinking that the natural hair that grew from my head was inadequate and that I needed to mirror society’s beauty standards so that I could be “pretty”.Over time I’ve realized that there are too many things wrong with society and I’m not trying to fit with it. So I got scissor happy and before I knew it, most of my hair was on the floor. My head felt lighter too.
Then, I was hit with three seconds of WHAT DID I JUST DO AND WHY DID I DO IT?!
But, I had to remind myself of my end goals and what my mane will eventually look like in the future. This was ultimately a good decision.
Through this experience, I’ve learned that there are two major ways to go about The Big Chop and it all depends on you:
Be like Nike and Just Do it. At the end of the day, it’s just hair. And unless you have a sickness or hair growth issue, you have the luxury of knowing your hair will grow back. It’s not going to grow back over night or in a week. Probably not in a month either, but you knew that. Eventually, it WILL be back to normal and most likely a lot healthier too. Plus, if you don’t like the short look, there are these things called wigs and weaves that can be slayed to look like the hair is coming from your scalp. That’s how I plan on protecting my hair through this process.
Take your time. If cutting off your relaxed ends is a huge deal and something you’re not ready for, don’t do it. You are already making a huge transition in your life to go natural and you do not want to stress out about the fact that you can’t put your hair in a bun or it’s not long enough to do a full on hair flip. I feel you. Also, you may not want to dive into the world of weaves and wigs because it can get expensive. You gotta pay to slay! #RT